You must be excited and busy planning your wedding. However, you should think about marriage. It may seem like you only met your future spouse a couple days ago, and now you are planning the wedding. It is completely normal to slow down and take a second to think about what you are getting ready for. Marriage is very serious. Some people rush into marriage or get married for the wrong reasons. You don’t want to be one of those people. Do you know that about 50 percent of marriages end in divorce? Those are horrible odds! However, 50 percent do prosper and succeed. So how can you have a successful and happy marriage?
The key to any relationship is communication. You want to be able to communicate with your spouse verbally, physically, sexually, spiritually, and so on. If something is bothering you, tell your spouse about it. Even if you don’t think he will care, you might be surprised.
Also, it is important for you to listen. If your spouse is telling you something, listen. Even if he is only talking about the new iPhone that came out, listen. Maybe he is hinting that he wants the new iPhone. Or maybe he will ask you about the conversation later. You don’t want to stand there with your mouth agape not knowing what to say. Even worse, you don’t want to say that you don’t know or that you weren’t listening. Listening to your partner shows that you care and that you are genuinely interested in what he has to say. If you aren’t a sports fan and your partner is a huge Lakers fan, you should still try to listen when he talks about Kobe’s three-point shot. It shows your partner that you care and that you are trying to show interest. Your partner will greatly appreciate it and love you more for it.
If a problem or conflict arises, do not blame your partner. Even if it is his doing, you should not blame him outright. Talk about the problem, and work through it together. After you are both married, you have to get used to doing everything together. Also, since you both will be spending so much time together and living together, conflicts will arise. When there is a problem, make sure that you are both are calm. Then, talk about how to solve the problem. Never blame your partner or say something hurtful that you might regret.
Marriage will not be easy. However, if you cooperate, communicate, listen, and work together with your partner, you will have a happy and successful marriage. Also, keep in mind that the perfect marriage is not the same as having a good marriage. If you constantly try to keep everything perfect, your marriage will fail. If problems arise, fix them. If something is wrong, talk about it. Good luck planning your wedding! May you have a wonderful and happy marriage.